{"id":2547,"date":"2025-03-23T00:56:26","date_gmt":"2025-03-23T00:56:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/crazybeautifulmadness.com\/?p=2547"},"modified":"2025-03-23T00:57:45","modified_gmt":"2025-03-23T00:57:45","slug":"the-exhaustion-no-one-sees-grieving-mothering-and-showing-up-every-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/crazybeautifulmadness.com\/?p=2547","title":{"rendered":"The exhaustion no one sees: Grieving, mothering, and showing up every day"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"2547\" class=\"elementor elementor-2547\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-1dcf01b2 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"1dcf01b2\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-49e1e2cd\" data-id=\"49e1e2cd\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-722ab95e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"722ab95e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.12.2 - 23-04-2023 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:cover {\"url\":\"http:\/\/crazybeautifulmadness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/IMG_3857.jpeg\",\"id\":2548,\"dimRatio\":50,\"customOverlayColor\":\"#8a6f67\",\"isUserOverlayColor\":false,\"minHeight\":1400,\"minHeightUnit\":\"px\",\"layout\":{\"type\":\"constrained\"}} -->\n<div class=\"wp-block-cover\" style=\"min-height: 1400px;\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-block-cover__image-background alignnone wp-image-2548\" src=\"http:\/\/crazybeautifulmadness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/IMG_3857.jpeg\" alt=\"Jaquie Pantoja\" width=\"969\" height=\"1534\" data-object-fit=\"cover\" srcset=\"https:\/\/crazybeautifulmadness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/IMG_3857.jpeg 969w, https:\/\/crazybeautifulmadness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/IMG_3857-190x300.jpeg 190w, https:\/\/crazybeautifulmadness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/IMG_3857-647x1024.jpeg 647w, https:\/\/crazybeautifulmadness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/IMG_3857-768x1216.jpeg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 969px) 100vw, 969px\" \/>\n<div class=\"wp-block-cover__inner-container\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<!-- \/wp:cover --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:uagb\/info-box {\"classMigrate\":true,\"block_id\":\"79f1af92\",\"btnBorderTopWidth\":1,\"btnBorderLeftWidth\":1,\"btnBorderRightWidth\":1,\"btnBorderBottomWidth\":1,\"btnBorderTopLeftRadius\":0,\"btnBorderTopRightRadius\":0,\"btnBorderBottomLeftRadius\":0,\"btnBorderBottomRightRadius\":0,\"btnBorderStyle\":\"solid\",\"btnBorderColor\":\"#333\"} -->\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-info-box uagb-block-79f1af92 uagb-infobox__content-wrap  uagb-infobox-icon-above-title uagb-infobox-image-valign-top\">\n<div class=\"uagb-ifb-content\">\n<div class=\"uagb-ifb-icon-wrap\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<div class=\"uagb-ifb-title-wrap\">\n<h3 class=\"uagb-ifb-title\">Grief isn&#8217;t just emotional<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<p class=\"uagb-ifb-desc\">Sometimes it\u2019s\u00a0<strong>physical<\/strong>.<br \/>It\u2019s a tiredness that sinks into your bones, not just from the sadness, but from the sheer weight of everything you carry\u2014<strong>alone.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<!-- \/wp:uagb\/info-box --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>I\u2019m a solo mum.<br \/>Not by choice. Not by design.<br \/>But by a twist of fate that left me raising our daughter on my own.<br \/>And while I love her with every cell of my being, I\u2019ll be honest with you:\u00a0<strong>I\u2019m exhausted.<\/strong><\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:separator --><hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/><!-- \/wp:separator --><!-- wp:heading {\"level\":3,\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Invisible Load of Solo Motherhood<\/h3>\n<!-- \/wp:heading --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>Most people see the smile. The functioning human. The \u201cyou\u2019re doing amazing\u201d mask.<br \/>But here\u2019s what they don\u2019t see:<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Waking up after a sleepless night, still needing to show up fully because your child needs you.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Doing the school run with a fever, because there\u2019s no backup parent.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Working a full-time job, then racing to pick up your child, cook dinner, help with homework, answer emails, and\u00a0<em>maybe<\/em>\u00a0remember to drink water.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Planning birthday parties, attending school meetings, cheering at dancing rehearsals remembering which uniform is needed on what day\u2014<em>all without someone to split the mental load with<\/em>.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Sitting in silence at the end of the day, every room quiet\u2026 except the hum of your tired thoughts, wondering if you\u2019re doing enough.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><!-- wp:separator --><hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/><!-- \/wp:separator --><!-- wp:heading {\"level\":3,\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">There is no pause button<\/h3>\n<!-- \/wp:heading --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>When you&#8217;re solo parenting while grieving,\u00a0<strong>you don\u2019t get to fall apart.<\/strong><br \/>Even when your body is aching.<br \/>Even when your mind is spiralling.<br \/>Even when you haven\u2019t had a proper break in what feels like years.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>You keep showing up. Because your child deserves joy.<br \/>Because you love them more than you love your own comfort.<br \/>Because, somehow, you&#8217;re the glue\u2014and the glue isn\u2019t allowed to crack.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>But here\u2019s the truth I want to say out loud:<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:quote -->\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\"><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p><strong>Just because I keep going doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s easy.<\/strong><br \/>Just because you\u2019re doing it all doesn\u2019t mean it doesn\u2019t cost you something.<br \/>And just because you\u2019re strong doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t need rest, support, or space to fall apart sometimes.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><\/blockquote>\n<!-- \/wp:quote --><!-- wp:separator --><hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/><!-- \/wp:separator --><!-- wp:heading {\"level\":3,\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">If you\u2019re in this too\u2026 I see you.<\/h3>\n<!-- \/wp:heading --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>To every mum doing it solo\u2026<br \/>Every widowed parent still showing up on days when your body wants to collapse and your heart just wants to\u00a0<em>be held<\/em>\u2014<br \/><strong>I see you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>You are doing enough.<br \/>You are more than enough.<br \/>Even on the days when you feel like you\u2019re failing.<br \/>Even when your patience is thin and your energy is non-existent.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>Your child sees the love\u2014<em>not the undone dishes<\/em>.<br \/>They feel the warmth of your arms\u2014<em>not the worry in your eyes<\/em>.<br \/>They carry your strength\u2014even when you\u2019re unsure you have any left to give.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:separator --><hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/><!-- \/wp:separator --><!-- wp:heading {\"level\":3,\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A Reminder to You (And Me)<\/h3>\n<!-- \/wp:heading --><!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>You\u2019re allowed to be tired.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>You\u2019re allowed to say \u201cI need help.\u201d<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>You\u2019re allowed to cancel things that don\u2019t serve your peace.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>You\u2019re allowed to prioritise\u00a0<em>yourself<\/em>\u00a0too.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p>This is not the life you asked for.<br \/>But you are living it with grace, grit, and heart.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph {\"className\":\"\"} -->\n<p><strong>So if today you need to cry, cancel, collapse, or just\u00a0<em>breathe<\/em>\u2014do it.<br \/>And know that in doing so, you&#8217;re not weak.<br \/>You&#8217;re wise. You&#8217;re real.<br \/>You&#8217;re human.<\/strong><\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:separator --><hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/><!-- \/wp:separator --><!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 \u00a0 I\u2019m a solo mum.Not by choice. Not by design.But by a twist of fate that left me raising our daughter on my own.And while I love her with every cell of my being, I\u2019ll be honest with you:\u00a0I\u2019m exhausted. The Invisible Load of Solo Motherhood Most people see the smile. 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